Many of you responded to my request asking to share advice that you either wish you had received or that you would give now to a graduate.
The following is a compilation of your thoughts. You will note goal setting was a theme mentioned more than once.
- The biggest advice I’d give them is to remember that you can’t start at the top, no matter what everyone tells you. You have to learn to survive as the little fish in the big pond until you get the experience to become a bigger fish. Because everyone has told you all your life that everyone should get rewarded the same, in the real world it doesn’t work that way.You are NOT “entitled” to a big office or a big salary. You need to earn it. And while doing that, the biggest lesson you can learn is to take responsibility for your actions, don’t be a victim.
- Keep learning something new every day.Write down your goals, share them with others and look at them every day so you can make sure you are spending time on things that will help you attain your goals.
- Listen to others!
- I would say live in day tight compartments. A page I have taken from Dale Carnegie, which has assisted me to have a refreshed perspective every day. Additionally, influence and control the items you can, yet know there are things bigger than you that cannot be controlled by you and anyone else. Finally, work on your confidence every day as if it is a muscle and never take it for granted.
- If you are an independent business person and are struggling in this economic environment, remember that every day that you can put the key in the door and turn the lights on is another day of opportunity.
- If I were going to deliver a commencement speech to myself, I would stress the importance of setting goals each day, both long range and short range ones. I would try not to let other people distract me from what I really want to do in life. Setting goals and living them are important on the job and in retirement as well.
- Introduce yourself. And, it’s not just your name and major anymore.
- Tell people why you are where you are, and what you are hoping to accomplish.
- If someone offers to introduce you to “someone who is doing that” or “a friend of a friend who has been very successful at that”, don’t dodge the opportunity. I know, it’s going to sound like a set-up, or maybe it even embarrasses you to have your Dad’s buddy offer you a beer and a chat about career and future. But, listen to me. There are a ton of people out there, just like you. If someone offers you a hand up – take it. And, then do the same in a few years to someone who will need your hand up. Learn to speak the phrase “I will take you up on that offer” and do it with grace. Then, write a thank you note.
- Write a thank you note every week.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.